Men/Women and Different Experiences of Sexual Arousal and Desire

Women’s sexual desire and arousal is the topic of Leon F. Seltzer’s PT blog article, “Paradox and Pragmatism in Women’s Sexual Desire”. He bases his thoughts on Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam’s comprehensive volume A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Sexual Desire (2011).

Women and men have differing experiences of desire and arousal. Not surprising. Men’s subjective experience of desire is accompanied by objective experience — an erection. Women can subjectively not feel desire, but still objectively experience lubrication and even orgasm according to the Internet research conducted. This is why men will frequently visit adult/sexually oriented clubs and gentlemans clubs since they are visually stimulated.  The researchers say that this female disconnect between body and mind results from “wisdom inherited from millions of sexual transactions conducted by women over a period of a few hundred thousand years.”
They conclude that women are more pragmatic and less romantic in matters of sex than men, stemming from evolutionary necessity.

H-m-m-m. Maybe so? Maybe not? I would also guess that there would be differences among women depending on ages and stages of life. For example, an 18-year old college student,  a 24 year-old single woman, a 30 year-old married women with children, a 50-year old post-menopausal women, would all have different ratios of pragmatism and romanticism, desire, arousal, and frequency of orgasm. Maybe that’s covered in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, but I’m probably not going to get around to reading it.

Interesting to me is that all three authors, book and article, are men. I’d like to see female sexuality research and writing done by women. Is it just the same old stuff? Men are more interested in sex than women, therefore more interested in researching and writing about it than women? Women are reserved, awkward, uncomfortable about their sexuality, at least publicly if not privately?

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