Are You Lying to Yourself: Negative Thinking, Positive, or Real Thinking?

“The Case for Lying to Yourself” in the WSJ, 7/31/2012 hit me hard. I don’t like the phrase lying to yourself anyway. Most intelligent people can’t do it very effectively although they can do it to and about others, (Tangent: Jonah Lehrer author of poorly reviewed neuroscience book Imagine was just fired from The New Yorker for making up a quote from Bob Dylan. YUK! Lehrer was my hero because of a spectacular article he wrote called, “Don’t” about Walter Mischell and the historic marshmallow experiments which unveiled the concept of strategic allocation of attention.)

The truth is the truth and intelligent women know what it is. You are not an idiot. You are not a genius. You are probably a capable, smart person who can often master many tasks, relationships, situations, and sometimes you don’t or can’t. You don’t handle the conversation well. You break into tears inopportunely, you send e-mails you know you shouldn’t send but do it anyway. You are human. You are smart and you are human. That’s realistic self-talk — neither positive or negative, nor lying.

You may disagree with me altogether, but I don’t like parts of the WSJ article’s slant and I don’t think we should ever lie to ourselves!