Category Archive: Eliminate Negative Self-talk

Negative Self-Talk Can’t Be Eliminated, But . . .

The negative self-talk habit — or any habit for that matter — can never be eliminated. It will always be hiding someplace in our brain, ready to jump into action when triggered by an old cue; just as you don’t forget how to ride a bicycle. Even when we’ve established a solid replacement habit, for …

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How Can You “Lean In” if You Have the Negative Self-Talk Habit?

The early pages of Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg contain many examples of NST — Sandberg’s or other women’s thinking habit. She doesn’t label it negative self-talk, but notes the frequent presence of the imposter syndrome and self-criticism in many women.  Examples from her book: ” Show me a woman without guilt …

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The Stressed Sex — Guess Who?

Women are more stressed and are diagnosed with anxiety and depressive disorders more frequently than men, according to authors of The Stressed Sex, Daniel and Jason Freeman. It’s certainly plausible that women experience higher levels of stress because of the demands of their social role …

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Habits Again!

What? Meditation can help you carry out the intention to break a habit? That’s what author Jeremy Dean says in his book Making Habits, Breaking Habits, while also acknowledging that meditation is not for everyone. Although Dean is quoting research, I’m unsure of how that process works and he doesn’t provide details. …

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How Do You Break Habits? Easily? Nope.

How do you break a habit? Breaking the negative self-talk habit with a focus on using new brain science (my current book project) changes the approach, but doesn’t change some facts about making and breaking habits. Jeremy Dean’s book, Making Habits, Breaking Habits comments that the intention to break a habit is …

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Start Eliminating Negative Self-Talk — The Three A’s

I’m working on finishing my book: Handbook #1 for Intelligent Women: Break the Negative Self-Talk Habit with New Brain Science. As I started working on the chapter on the problem-solving process as the first step toward No NST, I read the end of the previous chapter, which I’ve copied below. It’s a …

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Increase Cognitive Function, Improve Problem-Solving by Choosing Change

Some of us embrace change, others are change agents, but most people don’t like to BE changed. It’s one thing if you have some control over the change and are choosing change, another if you are being told, gently forced or demanded to change. The article, “Continue reading »

Go for Self-Acceptance/Let Go of Negative Self-Talk

“Too many of the women I see in private practice are immobilized by this idea of “should.” And it’s not just the haunting, tenacious feeling that you should do something, but the feeling that you should be something, namely an idealized version of yourself – the kind of person who would clean …

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Advice from Opera Star Joyce Di Donato about Negative Self-Talk

Still struggling with negative self-talk? Please listen to minutes 8 to 16 on Joyce Di Donato, Juilliard’s Master Class (YouTube).  Wilma Koutstaal, author of The Agile Mind, sent the link to me, knowing my writing and thinking about negative self-talk. The entire segment is interesting if you’re a music aficionado, …

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If You’re Into Negative Self Talk, Leaning In and Power Posing Won’t Work

Have you been following the hype, hoopla, and humor about Leaning In and Leaning Out? Leaning In is Sheryl Sandberg’s new book with advice for women who want to be leaders;  get more pushy, assertive , lean in, rather than back off. Leaning out is a funny comment by a male columnist …

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