Why do Women Hang On to the Negative Self-Talk Habit?

      As part of my retrospective of intelligentwomenonly.com, I’m republishing an April 25, 2010 blog which asks an important question that I’m still wondering about. The more I’ve delved into neuroscience and learned how the brain works the more I am convinced that the underlying reason that women hang on to negative self-talk …

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Women Leaders Aren’t Followed

Research Says Women are Not Followed, Men Are

   Disheartening Research About Gender and Leadership   Deja vue all over again — and again — and again. I was around for the first generation feminists struggle with the external barriers of the workplace, women leaders struggling, and the internal barriers of their own negative self-talk. As I read the Forbes

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Logo for the New Ban Negative Self-talk Campaign

Please let me know what you think of the new logo, intended to be a briefer, punchier approach to encouraging women to break the negative self-talk habit. As Sheryl Sandberg points out in Lean In women need to work on reducing the internal barriers to success, however defined, as well as the exterior barriers …

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New Judith C. Tingley Campaign — Ban Negative Self-Talk

BAN Negative Self-Talk

Yes, I know I don’t have the fame, fortune, or pizzaz of Sheryl Sandberg, but I have the same zealousness about banning negative self-talk as she does about women and Lean In and banning bossy. I’m all for women gaining confidence, leadership positions, power, and even glory! Sandberg inspires us in her book and attempts …

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Break the Negative Self-Talk Habit — For Beginners or Re-starters


Here’s a reminder from the basics about how to get started getting rid of negative self-talk. The three A’s. Look them over, think them over, and make a choice about whether you want to do it or not! Then I’ll post some beginning ideas for women who are wanting to change into …

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Attention to Negative Self-Talk — Less is More

Diminish Negative Self-Talk The negative self-talk of most women who “overthink” focuses on relationships and appearance. “I’m sure Joan’s mad at me. I gave her way too much advice. You’d think I’d learn.” “This wrinkle looks like a canyon on my forehead. It makes me look ten years older.” And that’s just the beginning. Negative …

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Negative Self-Talk, Brooding, Ruminating — Let ‘em Go

1 of  ” 7 Habits of Emotionally Healthy People” Psychology Today,.com, July 9, 2013 “Stop Brooding When we ruminate over distressing events we rarely gain insight into them. Instead we replay upsetting scenarios in our heads, which only increases the brooding and makes us feel worse. While the urge to ruminate is compelling, try disrupting …

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Intelligent Women — Build Yourself Up, Not Fix Yourself Up

If you didn’t see the article by Avivah Wittenberg-Cox about not fixing women, but fixing managers instead, then please read it on a recent post on intelligentwomenonly.com before you read on. The more things change, the more they stay the same Intelligent women have been trying to fix themselves to please men, …

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Eliminate Negative Self-Talk: Cognitive Restructuring

In response to a reader’s e-mail, I’m reminded that it’s not always easy to find what you’re looking for about solving the negative self-talk problem. Here’s a link to a brief summary (2012, but still currently accurate) of the 3 most useful techniques for decreasing self-talk: cognitive restructuring, problem-solving thinking, and detachment. Cognitive …

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Wittenberg-Cox’s Take on Gender and Management

Two  business colleagues having an argument

As regular readers know, I don’t usually post someone else’s entire written piece, but this one by Wittenberg-Cox really struck me. As a woman who was in the business world in the early 90s when men didn’t attempt to shake women’s hands and if they did, women didn’t really know how to do it, her …

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